Occasion guide
Wedding gifts
Group wedding gifts usually work best when one person co-ordinates, the couple's own wishes come first, and nobody is told what to give. This is what to think about before you start.
Follow the couple's stated wishes
Many couples now ask for a contribution towards something specific rather than a list of household items. Read the invitation or wedding website carefully before organising anything, and check with a close family member if the wording is unclear.
Agree who is collecting and by when
One organiser, a clear closing date a week or so before the wedding, and a short message explaining what the money is for keeps things simple. Give people a way to opt out quietly.
Keep amounts private and voluntary
Guests travel different distances, take different amounts of time off and have very different budgets. Suggest a range rather than a figure, and never share a list of who gave what.
Remember the message matters
A card signed by everyone, or a short note from each person, is often the part couples keep. Collect messages alongside any money.